When two people come together in hopes of building a life together forever, the last thing on their minds is breaking up one day. Unfortunately, it’s all too common for even the happiest of relationships to end in a bitter dispute.
When emotions are running high, people are capable of being incredibly vindictive and cutthroat in hopes of walking away as the proclaimed “winner” of a divorce dispute. This can make things even more complicated when there are children involved.
If you’re someone going through a divorce, you should make sure that you learn from the mistakes that others have made before you and avoid the following common errors.
Posting Too Much On Social Media
Even though social media is a great tool to be able to express yourself and feel like you have a community to share with, it can work against you. Posting about personal issues could give your former spouse ammunition against you. You could be accused of reckless behavior, and your photos could be dissected in a court of law claiming you are an unfit parent.
You’re better off saving your personal issues for your close friends and family in a less public environment. Until you’re out of the clear of a nasty divorce, you should keep a low profile.
Dating Too Quickly
A lot of people come out of a relationship ready to move on. They’ve been unhappy for so long that the idea of finding someone who can provide them happiness is promising and exciting.
However, moving too quickly into a new relationship doesn’t only have the potential to get you into legal trouble since you’re still married, but you may end up getting hurt.
Often people think they’re ready for a new relationship. However, they soon realize that they haven’t moved on yet. It’s best to take things slowly to ensure that you’re actually mentally prepared to make a new commitment.
Making Threats
When things get particularly heated in a divorce one may threaten the other which results in a series of threats back and forth.
Acting out violently or being emotionally abusive can work against you in a court of law if the other party provides evidence. You’re better off staying as peaceful as possible even if it’s challenging.
Involving The Kids
Talking to your kids about how angry you are with the other parent isn’t healthy for your children’s development.
It’s important to remain emotionally neutral as much as possible so that your child doesn’t feel forced to choose sides. If you genuinely think that the other party has done wrong, your child will grow up one day to see it for themselves. It’s not up to you or your role to convince them of it.
Originally posted on September 24, 2018 @ 10:18 am
